In my over 9 years as a health coach I have spent a lot of time thinking about food, cravings and why we eat the way we do. Over and over I watch clients, and myself, make food choices that are not only unhealthy but actually destructive.
What lies have we learned about food that make us operate this way?
It comes down to 3 major lies we believe:
1) Food is Love –– we give gifts of food to people we love, we celebrate with food to show how proud we are… what do we do when we want to feel closer to our spouse or family? We go out to eat!
2) Food is Energy –-our lives are designed to suck the energy from us. We over schedule, over commit, then spend our days running at breakneck speed to keep up. We get tired, exhausted and then we grab the nearest food to help us keep going.
3) Food will bring peace — we have a fight with our spouse, boss, children or coworker. We feel stressed out, or the pain of loss, and defeat, our heart cries out for comfort….what do we do? We reach for the creamy, salty or sweet, of our favorite “treat” and drown the pain until it stops.
We believed these things since we were kids we’ve practiced this for so long that it has become automatic and unconscious.
The food industry preys on us to sell more and more and they use these lies to do it. It works! They make billions of dollars each year and as Americans we are actually eating ourselves to death. It’s the worst form of sabotage and our kids are victims too.
BUT… there’s a dirty little secret they don’t want us to find out. When we discover this secret and replace the lies with this truth we get our lives back. We get our health back, we get our bodies back and we take control. When we know this and let it become part of our unconscious, life becomes amazing and everything we want it to be.
It’s so simple we miss it……
The truth is …..
FOOD IS TEMPORARY.…….
Let’s be real. Food goes in our mouths, through our bodies and out the other end. It NEVER lasts for long. We are trying to use something that is temporary to fix a problem that requires something permanent.
It will NEVER work. In fact, it will make the problem worse.
To be loved is a desire we are born with, we all have an inborn desire to know we are loveable and feel a sense of love and caring. This permanent need can not be filled with a temporary solution.
It’s like trying to fix a flat tire with duct tape. It might hold for a while and solve the immediate pain but sooner or later we will have a blow out. At that point we will not only have a much bigger problem on our hands but it will cost more and take longer to fix than if we had actually made the right choice in the first place.
Nice ideas Tina but what do we do? How do we function in this world that is designed to teach us that temporary solutions solve permanent problems? We can’t just “opt out” of eating and life can we?
No we can’t just quit. But we CAN take control of our choices. We can stop the madness and instead of reaching for the food take a minute to ask “what am I really trying to do?” “What do I really need?”
If what you need is love, maybe it’s time to learn where unlimited love comes from:
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. – John 3:16 (NIV)
If what you need is energy, maybe it’s time to slow down and recharge with the source of all energy:
but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. – Isaiah 40:31 (NIV)
If what you need is peace, the truth is there is one who has that gift waiting for you:
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. – John 14:27 (NIV)
The first step is to STOP before the food goes in your mouth and ask the question.
Will you try it just for a day? Let me know what you find out.